The Hidden Reason You Fall for People Who Hurt You | Helen Hunt & Harville Hendrix | EP 76

Feb 18, 2025

Have you ever wondered why we are drawn to people who challenge us the most?

 

In this episode, I sit down with Harville and Helen Hendricks, the minds behind Imago Relationship Therapy, to explore why we unconsciously attract partners who reflect our childhood wounds. We dive into how early experiences shape our relationships, why conflict is not the problem but an opportunity, and how we can create safety and connection instead of distance and frustration.

 

We talk about how the brain is wired for survival, why negativity is the biggest relationship killer, and how structured dialogue can transform the way we connect. Harville and Helen share practical tools to move from blame to understanding, helping us see our differences as a strength, not a weakness. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or struggling to communicate, this episode will shift how you see love and connection.

 

Stick around for a conversation that challenges common myths about relationships and offers real solutions to build deeper intimacy. Plus, we discuss their new project that ensures their work will live on for future generations. If you've ever felt stuck in a relationship pattern, this is an episode you don’t want to miss.

 

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Have you watched our previous episode with my husband, Emilio?

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/bjHpRB-z0n0?si=aE-0dyDq5F40hge9

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